Where I’ve Been: A Pause in Consulting and Podcasting
When I last blogged, I promised an update to those who have followed my podcast and consulting calendar regularly. This one’s for you! Stepping down the pace and amount of consulting I was doing has been a natural part of this phase of both life and career, and although this isn’t directly connected to education, it is deeply relevant for so many in the profession that the lessons are worth passing on.

The Bridge Between Full Time Motherhood and Teaching, and What’s Next
The bridge referred to in the title is the journey between full-time parenthood and what comes next. After years in the sanctuary of motherhood—and the classroom—I’ve stepped back into the wild and found it familiar, thrilling, and a little terrifying–after the initial shock and trauma of it all! This phase is about hard-passing on “empty nester syndrome,” opting instead to embrace the sound of my own wings. It’s about finding my rhythm beyond the structure of school schedules, afternoon practices, weekend concerts, and games. It’s about honoring the quiet grief of gently closing the door on nearly half a lifetime—and opening a portal to rediscover joy, purpose, and the wild parts of myself I’d carefully tucked away.

What Happens After You Retire from Teaching (and Full-Time Parenting)
In the lifetime since my last SmallBites episode, I have released my son onto the free range and retired from the classroom. Finding my identity outside of what I do for young humans has been… challenging, to say the least. The first time I stood in the store and realized I didn’t need a gallon of milk, I had a breakdown. They didn’t have a half-gallon of my favorite brand and I melted down into tears right there in the dairy section. I wish I could say that was the only moment like that, but that would dishonor my coworkers, who patiently let me burst into tears at the falling of some dust speck–sized reminder of my dreamy, rose-colored parenting days. “Hard-passing on ’empty nest syndrome'” does not mean hastily switching gears. It means diving headlong to the grief connected with letting go and finding yourself adrift, and then anew.

Strategy 1: Build a Support System for Your Transition
That brings me to my first strategy: find supportive community and let them know you might be struggling a little. If you are a woman, this time probably comes with some hormonal shifts as well, so having safe-space people becomes even more important—because, good luck with stemming the flow of those tears! Accepting that emotional part of processing the change is also central to this evolution, or at least it has been for me. From senior year to about 18 months after he went to the Army, there were lots of feelings. I didn’t shy away from them. But I also didn’t shy away from dipping my toe back into the water of self-discovery. I found a backup brand of milk I like, then a second. I found that solo travel in places without a kids’ club was ahh-mazing. I also discovered the air fryer—my kitchen bestie, second only to my espresso maker.

Strategy 2: Real Self-Care for Teachers and Mothers in Transition
I’ve found that I enjoy painting my own nails and sipping glittery, handcrafted cocktails while wearing a nourishing face mask. Who knew the internet was full of recipes for both! Which brings me to strategy 2: practice self-care. There should really be no time in life where you don’t take time to breathe, stretch, dance, read, or just be. While I know that can be almost impossible when you’re balancing a family and career, consider it as important as filling up the car. To serve others well, you have to keep your own tank full. What fills your bucket? What brings you joy? It can be as simple and cost and calorie conscious as finding animals in the clouds. Whatever feeds your soul, make time for it.

End-of-Year Teacher Tip: Try a Self-Care Palooza with Students
If you are in the classroom or developing curriculum, consider writing in a self-care palooza. Talk to students about regulating emotions and taking time to power down, especially after the oft anxiety riddled testing season. Have them research, develop, and share self-care routines—or even set up classroom wellness stations, as your school guidelines allow.

From the Classroom to Consulting: Still in the K–12 Space
For me, this time away from the frenzy of 7-day-a-week consulting, writing, parenting, and teaching has been time well spent. I have needed the time to process the last two decades that were centered around family, and launch this season where I get to know the hopes, dreams, likes, and loves of this really cool person—me.

And while I enjoy making more time and space for me, I am still deeply a part of the educational sector. Co-hosting a morning show with Alice Keeler at HA! UnmutED, we start the week Mondays at 7:50, talking about classroom and district concerns. I still share my K–12 institutional knowledge through school culture and AI consulting, coaching, and articles in online publications like Edutopia and TESPA. And since teacher retirement, I am especially enjoying telling the story of the Center for Outcomes Based Contracting, an educational nonprofit that transforms the way K–12 providers and districts partner, centering measurable student outcomes from procurement and contracting through implementation. Finally, my books are a great source of evergreen knowledge for history buffs and those who want to create more human-centered classrooms.

Rewilding After Teaching: Rediscovering Identity and Purpose
But back to this bridge I mentioned—this crossing over, if you will. As I emerge from the wandering, feeling-my-way phase, I’m starting to hear the sound of my own wings again—lighter now, more certain. No longer tethered to the regimented rhythms of teaching and mothering, I’m stepping more solidly into a vision of who I am becoming. Not just after, but because of those seasons. The rewilding isn’t loud—it’s quiet, rooted, and deeply alive.

It’s messy. It’s magic.
And I’m back.

P.S. If you’re a fellow educator, parent, or human in transition—feel free to share this with someone else on the journey. Let’s normalize what comes after the classroom and the kitchen table.

For those of you who have followed SmallBites for a while, you probably noticed that the break after last season has lasted longer than usual. I’ll update you in long version at some point, but for now, suffice it to say, that I took advantage of a needed break.

That time away from this work made room for new vision and new focus. This new season brings my work in the edtech sector to the forefront, with Edutopia articles on teachers shaping the use of AI, and crafting District and school AI policy. There is also an important read on classroom level device management and care (since many classes are now virtually computer labs) and one on teaching respectful online communication and media literacy–especially important for students and teachers alike during an election year.

I’ve also found time to learn from and work with an amazing organization, The Center for Outcomes Based Contracting. The Center for OBC, a part of the Southern Education Foundation, is doing transformative work with districts and their vendor partners to ensure that federal dollars spent on instructional materials are used effectively as determined by student success.

Finally, I have still been working with groups and organization to improve teacher efficacy, student outcomes and of course, guide educators to creating a better sense of belonging for all. This week, joining TCEA’s coach’s conference will find me doing exactly that in sessions like It’s ME, AI, I’m the Problem it’s Me and The Coach’s Toolkit for Building Thriving Learning Environments. There’s still time to register and make it to the virtual conference, even if you can’t make it to Austin.

The saying goes, “there’s no tired like teacher tired.” Teachers have exhausting schedules, and if you’ve ever time stamped a teacher day, you’ll know that a teacher day is simply impossible to get through in a day. That feeling is not confined to the classroom. For those of us who have deeply held beliefs about what a student-centered school environment looks like, feels like and ignites learning like, education can be tough, whatever the role.

I am humbled at how incremental the change is in the grand scheme of things. That humility makes me want to cry into a glass of milk. That humble place is also a place of remembering: “⁠⁠Define Your Why⁠⁠“, as author and educator ⁠⁠Barbara Bray⁠⁠ says. Either I believe that I can be an agent of change one small bite at a time, or I don’t. The system needs to change, that’s why I do what I do. And so, I’ll dry my tears and start over. Because futility and hopelessness are just not an option.

Care for a few ideas to help get you through? Read on.

Encouragement from @DorisASantoro – Rise up with strategies and information on burnout vs. teacher demoralization in this ⁠Edweek article⁠ that helps you understand what you’re dealing with and how to deal with it.

Encouragement from @PlanBookCom – Rise up, if you’ve decided that burnout is where you’re heading, with these ⁠strategies from PlanBook⁠ and don’t be afraid to reach out for help.

Encouragement from @Angela_Watson – Rise up and Say goodbye to Teacher Tired with this ⁠article and resources from Angela Watson⁠. I learned about her 40 hour work week resources from Cult of Pedagogy. Some resources are paid, but even the free ones will revolutionize the way you spend your time.

Encouragement from @weareteachers – Rise up and giggle. Sometimes, laughter is the best medicine, and we teachers are a funny lot! ⁠Start here⁠ then follow them on Twitter and Instagram. Cause, when you run out of tears, sometimes all you can do is laugh.

Encouragement from M.L. Brown – If laughter and strategies no longer work, rise up with this ⁠Medium article⁠ from an educator who decided that enough was enough. For those who have made that decision, let’s be supportive, knowing that sometimes, enough really is enough.

Note: This episode is an edited rebroadcast of SmallBites LIVE: Fighting Feelings of Futility

Wellness in educational spaces has become a trend that, while important, often falls flat in practice.That may be because teachers and administrators tend to forget that they have to actually make use of the time and tools given. Refilling your proverbial cup is the only way to ensure personal success and success for those in your charge. Less really is more and you CAN be a better teacher in less than a 45 hour work week.

Good quality teaching is dependent on you being consistently rested and regulated for the classroom day; and good quality teaching is foundational to providing equitable learning experiences for all your students. Similarly for administrators who balance many different types of duties daily, being well-rested and well-regulated is key to building a campus culture conducive to academic, emotional, and social success.

Consider using the ⁠8-8-8 rule ⁠and an ⁠Eisenhower matrix⁠ to prioritize tasks. The 8-8-8 rule divides your day into 8 hours of work, 8 hours of sleep and 8 hours of personal time spent on self-care, friends, family, hobbies, etc. An Eisenhower matrix can help you decide whether a task has to be done now, can be scheduled for later or delegated. With practice, these tools will become a natural part of your daily planning.

Rules to Live By

Once you have a general idea of how you will prioritize your tasks, do these 5 things to ensure that you get the most out of your day without constantly working over a healthy capacity:

1. Decide how many hours you will work in a week. And then keep to it. My magic number was 45.

2. Delegate. Empower students. Have them manage the objective board, attendance, station timers and anything else that will give them a sense of ownership and responsibility.

3. Co-create with your students. For example, using student created review and test prep materials on Edpuzzle or Quizlet can build student confidence, skill, and capacity; and save you teacher time.

4. Stop using paper. Using an LMS like Google Classroom (or Canvas or Schoology if your district is so inclined) saves time and resources. Copier broken? Out of paper? No name papers? Make-up work? Put it all online. ⁠Create digital worksheets⁠. Better yet, pay a niece, nephew or other older tech savvy student in your circle to do it for you. The time you take to do this ONCE will save you time all year so you can use you planning time to plan–and maybe even go to the restroom.

5. Go outside. This seems like a waste of time BUT ⁠⁠research⁠⁠ tells us that natural light boosts concentration, mood, energy and helps alleviate eye fatigue and headaches that come with florescent and computer screen lighting. 

Putting in long hours can feel rewarding, but if you aren’t being smart about balancing that work time with other activities, you’ll suffer and so will the students and staff you serve. If you love what you do and love who you are doing it for, love them enough to practice work-life balance in earnest. Yes, some ‘important’ things may go undone, they sometimes do. But rest and recharging do not belong on the “do it tomorrow” list. Ever.

As we approach November when the country highlights the histories of Indigenous Peoples of North America, it’s fitting that Martin Scorsese’s Killers of the Flower Moon, based on the book by David Grann, calls our attention to the heinous crimes committed against the Native American community. In contrast to the narratives many of us have grown up with that cast the “Injuns” and “Red Man” as savages and bad guys, this movie highlights the deception and murder, as well as the racial jealousy that we’ve begun to see in Black historical films, but that are still new themes in films featuring Native American Narratives.

The fact is, if you grew up learning “…Columbus sailed the ocean blue…” or singing the famed Disney line, “Why does he ask you ‘how’?” then there are probably a lot of nostalgic moments involving beloved relatives that are hard to let go of. And thinking of heroic leaders as the same people who forcibly removed and killed millions of people to get their land is difficult to process. But if we want to grow and be better as a nation, process it we must. Doing the next right thing starts with acknowledging and teaching truth to the next generations.

Here are resources to help you further explore narratives that should have been amplified long ago:

1. Watch ⁠The Osage Murders from the 2022 PBS Short Film Festival⁠⁠ ⁠to hear the story of the Osage murders told from the Osage perspective.
2. ⁠Explore and support cultural endeavors⁠ in Native American Communities by listening, watching reading or donating.
3. ⁠Watch movies and clips ⁠written and produced by indigenous voices.
4. Find out what Nation originally lived on the land you live on at ⁠https://native-land.ca/⁠.
5. ⁠Join the Smithsonian’s National Museum of the American Indian and Teaching for Change⁠ for a day of online conversation, curriculum highlights, and ideas exchange. If you can’t, explore the other links and resources on Smithsonian’s NMAI site.

It’s never easy seeing the dark side of someone we esteem. But if we are truly to love our nation, it has to include loving all of her. In November, take the chance to get to know America’s origin story. As usual, all the resources are filled with resources, so you have more than enough to discover with your team, your students or even your family. Finally, here’s a short read from Edutopia that you can share in a newsletter or morning email.

I wish you a great month of discovery and learning.

The emotional work of teaching can be heavy on a good day, when all is generally right with the world. But on a day when students have had a weekend filled with real time clips of children in war-torn countries and friends running from bullets at state fairs, your upbeat Monday morning “How was everybody’s weekend?!” might devolve into a discussion that quickly takes you out of your depth.

Students are much more aware these days and with so many information outlets, older children with 24 hour access to phones can be confronted with more than just the latest dance videos on their “for you” pages. With the Ukrainian-Russian war, and now the Palestinian-Israeli war in heavy rotation in every media outlet, even the sunniest student may be feeling a bit overwhelmed.

Handling Bad News

Nothing sells like bad news and today’s youth are consumers of information they have very little context for. The same can be true for adults. How do we explain wars, murders, tragedies, especially those tragedies in which our inhumanity towards one another is on full display? And how do we convince young people that we are safe and the world is a great place when all the messages and media images say otherwise?

As a teacher, it can be almost impossible to know what to say to students struggling with the hard realities of life, when we can barely understand and process them ourselves. Still, when our students come to us, bothered by things beyond the classroom, we have to respond. Here are 5 small bites to support you this week and any time bad news lands on your classroom’s proverbial doorstep:

Five Small Bites

1.  If you’re upset by events, don’t be afraid to admit that you don’t always understand why things happen the way they do and that you are bothered by them too.

2. Don’t support laws (or politicians) that keep children from trying to make sense of the world through current event conversations in the classroom. Civic education includes civil discourse.

3. Support teachers with neutral, unbiased talking points and ⁠conflict resolution strategies ⁠for when conversations get heated.

4. Make time in class and in pacing guides for journaling or reflection. With older kids, talk about the messages from young people around the world telling their truths on social media about the war.

5. Teach media literacy. Use ⁠All Sides Media⁠ or look at ⁠headlines from different countries⁠ to get a broad perspective and corroborate stories from popular news outlets.

Finally, you don’t have to have all the answers. Listen, show empathy and above all, take care of your own mental health so that you can respond with equanimity. Trade late-night doom scrolling for other pastimes and be kind to yourself and others around you. We may not be able to change world events, but we can brighten our own corner of the world.

Equity is about academic outcomes not box checker initiatives.

As the opposition to educational change grows, especially when talking about issues like learning gaps, teacher retention and inclusive environments, it’s left to teachers in the trenches to help shape our future. That burden is immense, as seen in the droves of teachers experiencing burn-out and leaving the profession in years 1-5. The sector’s lack of healthy, well supported and experienced teachers especially impacts our most vulnerable students, who often lack access to tenured, experienced teachers in the classroom.

Equity initiatives have pushed the thinking on what it means to create safe, inclusive spaces in schools. However, the impact of these initiatives has not yet shown up in the form of academic gains. My answer to this is to use SmallBites to provide more support for the classroom, which is where equitable access has never really been equitable.

Follow the podcast, connect with me on social media or host me for professional development on your campus. But mostly, listen and reflect on what ‘equity in education’ means. It’s not another PD or training module. It’s in how we show up for the students who need us most; and that starts with equitable access to good teaching.

Here are 5 learning links so you can dive deeper into today’s topic.

1. ⁠Teacher Choice Boards⁠⁠ from Edthena (They are a competitor, but the article is great, as is the template.)

2. ⁠More Support, Less Gotcha⁠, learn more in my interview with Kevin Leichtman.

3. ⁠Mentors Can Be Hired⁠ from companies like Edifying Teachers

4. ⁠Provide Real Mental Health Support⁠, this EdWeek article can help.

5. ⁠Restorative Practice Is Not Just “Keep ‘Em In School Regardless”. ⁠ Learn more in part one of this 3 part SmallBites Series on restorative practice.

⁠Find Links and Additional Resources on Hedreich.com⁠

If you are reading this, whether you have a signed contract at your old school, a contract that signals new beginnings in a new position or even a new beginning that has nothing to do with education, you survived the year (or are at least nearing the finish line)! Students and staff have looked to you for guidance and gotten it. No matter what you forgot to do or even how you fell short; you spent your days trying to make the future a little better for us all.

Teachers, We Are Grateful For You!

I for one, am grateful for each and every person who has risked going into a school building to help serve the families of our communities. In case no one has told you, you are appreciated.

As you begin your summer break, I would like to extend my gratitude for your loyalty and provide you with a top 5 list for summer break. Each episode has its own resources, so don’t forget to check out the show notes and share it with a friend or two:

The Lost Cause: The Original School Indoctrination

Three Things Districts Can Do to Promote Teacher Retention

SmallBites meets Cult of Pedagogy: An Exercise for Teachers

Bias helped Jeffrey Dahmer Kill

I Like What You Like, You Like What I Like; A SmallBites Video on Halo Bias

After summer, SmallBites will be concentrating on fundamental practices of classroom culture and teacher workload strategies. Educators who teach in underserved community often struggle in these two areas for a myriad of reasons. We will discuss those areas and look at supporting strategies in the coming school year as a part of a larger take on educational equity. Further, you’ll have the opportunity to do some in depth learning in cohorts, so be on the lookout for that information on Twitter, Linkedin and wherever you get your social content.

Thank you again for being a part of the SmallBites Journey. We’re in this together.

Episode Description

In this final full week of #AAPIHeritage month, you still have time to learn about the PI in AAPI with your students, families or just for yourself. Read the part I blog, check out the resources in part II and add the resources below to your cache.

What you can listen to (beware, the Jawaiian sound is addictive).

What you can watch.

What you can read.

How you can ‘vacation’ virtually.

How you can support and conserve from where you are.

About our guest:

Kecia McDonald is not a PI, she is an EL resource teacher and longtime resident on the Big Island. You can follow her on ⁠Instagram⁠, ⁠LinkedIn ⁠or ⁠Twitter⁠.

Listen to part one and get the show notes